We see boys and girls as entirely different species. Girls like muffins. Boys like baseball. They are different, and we are taught to see them differently. Our parents and the church are powerful teachers, and our schools and the leisure industry reinforce this early conditioning. But what if our teachers are wrong? What if girls and boys are really the same—not biologically, of course, but in all other ways? What if the gender roles we’ve learned—what it means to be a girl or a boy—rather than helping us form an identity, serve only to limit the sort of people we can be?
The answer is staring us in the face. Our society puts a construction on gender, creates a model for us to follow, but this model changes from generation to generation. In other words, neither gender has an essence. Neither has a stable, unchanging set of traits that defines its members, for all time, as real men or real women. Big World looks at some of the traits that are commonly used to define the genders (men are strong and brave, adventurous and level-headed, while women are pretty, clean, cautious and caring), and shows that these traits belong equally to both men and women. It is only by stepping past the stereotypes that we become full-blown people. It is only by becoming full-blown people that we are able to have truly loving relationships. We have to make the world bigger than the one we were born into.
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